Some people continually cut me down for my blogs about wanting to be me first. I’ve never once said you have to be alone or you have to believe what I believe. I don’t think that this is for everyone. Like I blogged before I started opening up about these things, these are MY thoughts and what I feel. I have the same people writing to me every time on team love or team kids and I in no way am sitting here saying fuck love or fuck kids…. All I’m saying is be you first. Learn about yourself first before you get into relationships. I’ve done it before and now I’m taking a different route. I’ve seen both sides! It’d be the same as me saying, well you’ve never done it alone or you haven’t had time to grow alone so how would you know?! But that’s your choice and I’m not saying it’s wrong! Just like these are all mine. How I feel. What I want. That’s what these blogs are for. For me.
So again, this is just what I feel and this is how I’m letting it out. If I offend you then I’m sorry. I am not close minded and I am not selling dreams. My last blog was only saying you should not have to sacrifice yourself and who you are for love. Because I did that and I see a lot of people do it today. I have been in a long relationship where we lived together, trained together, had cars and bills together and that ended terribly. So this is my growing from it and learning how to be by myself. This is my journey so please respect it.
Taken or not.. I’m curious to know how you scored guys/women. What was/is your go to line or deed or whatever. Go!
Thank you to those who weren’t ashamed to answer my question :) it was a while back! But I love that you all weren’t afraid to reply. Thank you!
We don’t realize how much we compromise for love. We compromise our own happiness. We compromise our stability. Our well-being. Our comfort. The list goes on. We do it all for the sake of love. To prove our loyalty. To prove their value to us. To prove the lengths we are willing to go and the sacrifices we are willing to make. Because we are sold this dream that the reason we exist on this earth is ultimately to find another human to love, cherish and grow old with.
I don’t believe in this.
I think this idea is crazy.
You should never have to sacrifice yourself for love.
I have in the past and I was so terribly wrong to do this.
Life is about you, first. What makes you happy. What you love. What makes you feel whole. What you want to do and where you want to go.
Not about what you can do to make someone else happy.
But that’s just what I think.